Relatability

I know individuals who are “outspoken” by voicing opinions and displaying traits that go against the “regional” average personality, crossing the line of what’s socially acceptable where they live. Let’s say that one of these individuals lived in the same town his whole life, until he takes a very extensive trip around the world, lives in various place and gets to know people in a number of different cultures. Years later he returns to the town he originally lived. He now can see the difference between his hometown’s culture and other cultures. If most of the other cultures he exposed himself to tolerated his personality easily, does he readjust his perception of himself? Does he turn a critical eye toward his hometown? I sure hope so. I wonder what Dolly Parton’s take is on this.

The way you describe your personality traits is in relation to a perceived average, how you describe the “average person”. I only say this to acknowledge it, the subjectivity of it, or better yet the subjective idea of objectivity of it. Are you following me so far?

There’s a lot I’m not accounting for here, or at least haven’t addressed yet, such as the difference or relationship between behavior and the personality, or Woody Allen. Think of going out with your girlfriend when she feels like she’s got something to prove, and the disaster she half-calculated it would be.

In my hypothetical individual and his hypothetical trip abroad, he’s living in comfort, the places he lives are in stable condition without turmoil or desperation. The economy is good, it was before the 2016 election, there was a sense of relative stability. That’s not reality now, but I need something to hold still long enough for us to look at it under a magnifying glass.

So is there an objective human personality? Some standard we can compare ourselves against? George Clooney, even? I hope that in my research I find someone who can argue that there is or isn’t such a thing, one way or the other. I don’t mind being proven wrong, as long as it’s proven in the real world, not Fox News “proven”.

Diss-claim-erz

This blog is about the subject of personality of the individual person. It is not, however, as the character Abigail Williams in The Crucible put it, “a respecter of persons”. I have some awful things to say (and jokes to make) about certain personality traits and the people who currently possess them.

If I’m going to write under a nom de plume you can be sure I’m not going to hold back.

My goal is to bring a wide range of perspectives, insights, models and tests into one place where it is all easily accessible and useful to you. If I set the tags up right, it should work.

I have an education, but it’s not in a field related to this topic, and I’m not going to pretend to sound like it is. I don’t know the lingo. I would use the correct jargon if I knew it. I suppose I’ll pick it up as I go along. That doesn’t mean that I don’t take the subject seriously or lack respect for the ideas of professionals in the field. I’m learning as I go, and will try to step carefully. I may have to go the long way around an idea, in the absence of realizing the most concise expression.

This blog isn’t about me, but it is unavoidable that my personality will be on full display in much of what I write. If you wrote this blog, wouldn’t yours?

“Personality” may mean different things to different people. It shouldn’t. Our perception of the topic is an important place to start.

Merriam-Webster says:

Personality: “3 a :  the complex of characteristics that distinguishes an individual or a nation or group; especially :  the totality of an individual’s behavioral and emotional characteristics b :  a set of distinctive traits and characteristics of the city” source

Again, in this blog my concentration is on the individual, not a group or location or nation. The influence of an individual’s environment on his/her personality is a topic for other posts, and hopefully there’ll be many. There’s no denying its importance, but keeping in mind that the personality people present in their environment (emphasizing certain traits, downplaying others) is not their true personality. That’s just fakery. Or at the very least, they are trained to behave a certain way, and that’s what comes out.